Were you born with the "addiction gene"?????
So, who did you inherit those beautiful brown eyes from? Or are they BLUE? Or that nose? Or is it THIQ? For those born with THIQ then "sobriety" is the only way free.
THIQ? = Tetrahyroisoquinoline. In a jist of a story, there is a recent scientific proven fact why some in the family have inherited the addiction gene and some have NOT! Basically, either you have it or you don't! Trouble is, the only thing that activates this inherited chemical THIQ component into full blown alcoholism or your drug of choice addiction is a one time consumption of you take your pick: Alcohol!
If you have this gene it explains why some people can drink sensibly and why some CANNOT and are powerless over alcohol or their drug of choice. It is the difference between the "addict" and the "normie". For some folks, it is just not their fault they are like this. But it is their responsibilty to grasp their own sobriety. They are the ones that can never touch it. Makes so much sense really. So no matter what, as Father Martin says, we must urge our addict into what works. A 12 Step Recovery and/or treatment of SOBRIETY !! This is why the struggling loving family member of the addict can say, "I didn't cause it, I can't control it, and I can't cure it!" No matter how hard we try! What this gives the family member, is a respect for the nature of the disease. We can respond with love and firm boundaries NOT to enable. Instead with our tools in place we can lovingly contribute to the person to hit their own bottom to choose LIFE and HELP via treatment. Thank goodness for Ala-Non and its community of support for the frustrated and exasperated family members of the alcoholic! It's going to be OK! ............Nothing going to break hearts more than seeing the one you love using and determined to be "OUT THERE"
I can't, but HE can, so I think I'll let HIM..... handle it! And that is all I know.
