Sunday, October 24, 2010


If we have experienced any kind of abuse, trauma or loss or plain bad luck we can be driven by our own stinkin thinkin into acting on our addiction or compulsions. All we need is an exuse for a pity party and to BRING it on! That is... our own methods which spiral us into circling the drain!

Best thing is to learn what stinkin thinkin is and when it is happening to stop and correct. Could be patterns of negativity statements we heard from the generations before us or our own ability to feel sorry for ourselves.

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Also a quick little exercise out of the "woe is me" state is to make a grateful list! Simple things to start with like waking up everyday, being able to walk and talk and spending time with the ones we love and for those who actually DO love and care about us! I am a grateful believer in Jesus Christ and stand today and everyday just
grateful to be forgiven!

Say this: Lord, I thank you that you have loved me before I could love myself. Thank you for sticking with me and protecting me from fully acting on all my stinkin thinkin! Thank you for your never ending mercy and grace and sparing me from getting all my actions may really deserve! Help me turn over now all those things in this life that have caused me pain and hurt that I cannot understand. Please, please forgive me for all the things I have done to hurt you, myself and others in my life. Help me now to fully surrender my life to you and trust you with my future. Thank you for your goodness and for doing for me what I could not do for myself! Amen.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Why is it so hard to ACKNOWLEDGE the pink elephant in the room?

The dynamics at home are different for everyone but really the toxic problem that is destroying the lives and relationships with those we love is the most difficult to confront. Why are we so afraid to step up and say, " HEY!" Why are we afraid to take the problem head on and set some boundaries to protect our peace, our happiness and our security? Isn't the potential loss from the upset offender less than what we are experiencing now? Yes, like the story of Jonah and the Whale, there was one person's direct disobedience to God that had circumstances that were harming everyone on the ship! All the innocent ones were suffering because Jonah was running from God's WILL! So guess what they did? They threw Jonah overboard to get some peace and sanity back! Guess what? NOW Jonah was God's problem (not theirs!) and God loved Jonah so much he saved his life as a whale came and swallowed him up and spit him out to safety once the misery (in the belly of the whale) did it's magic and led Jonah to repent! Then Jonah obeyed and served God and good things happened after that!

Sometimes we gotta just let go, NOT WATCH, and let GOD deal with some people before they are gonna get it. Pain, loss and sorrow will lead men to repent, not our constant rescuing, fixing, saving, covering up and certainly NOT us pretending the problem is not real! The sooner we confront the sooner a healing can happen, by the grace of GOD! Sometimes, for the one going down, they are in so much DENIAL about an issue they won't comprehend the truth until something BAD happens. That's the only way some people are gonna learn. So step away and let some miracles happen while you hide and pray! Just don't forget, TO PRAY!