Monday, November 23, 2015

Turn it over to your Higher Power! Stress is TOXIC!

Stress is as toxic as swallowing poison.  The stress and unrelenting worry placed on our adrenals and being in a constant state of "fight or flight" raises our cortisol which leads to hormone disruption, high blood pressure, elevated blood sugar and heart disease.  So, it is suggested, we TURN it OVER to God those things we are powerless over to change.  I can't, but HE can so, I think I'll let him and take a new ride down a road I've never been.  Peace and quiet and serenity until I try to take back control over things that are really, none of my business!
We gotta SAVE ourselves! Say this, "I wanna LIVE!!"

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Tuesday, September 08, 2015

"Keep Trusting" by Cary Kelly

Sometimes the road gets hard, sometimes we are overwhelmed with hopelessness.  There IS HOPE!

May you find what you need and may your Higher Power guide you to peace.  Reach out for help and don't isolate.  There is a community of people that have gone through what you are going through that can encourage you.  Find a meeting and go today!

Saturday, June 20, 2015

Need 12-step recovery for Kicking NICOTINE? Why NOT?

A SURE pathway to death by disease: Nicotine Addiction!

Peeling back another layer of the onion!  Let's talk about it. Take your pick today for tomorrow:

  • stroke
  • heart disease
  • sudden death by heart attack
  • slow ugly death by cancer now behind 50% of CANCERs per year!
  • or not being able to breathe COPD/emphysema

         (the last 10 years feels like each breath is our last only it's not.)

YES, we will need a caretaker to push us around in a wheelchair with our O 2 tank and set up the hospitable bed in the living room our last 5 years. . If that doesn't scare you,  how about losing your breasts for a smoke lady's or guys: impotence? It'll be something you won't like so think it over.  Can you see the grief and sadness on the faces surrounding you on your death bed? They are sobbing because they love you and are sad because your bad habits caused this gruesome way to die early. We leave this planet far before our time because we thought what we thought about our addiction.  We tell ourselves lies, we justify our habit, we like the taste, we enjoy the method of auto intoxication or that "chemical nicotine fix" or mind altering high! Do what you can to STOP SMOKING NOW! Save yourself! Don't get dead!

The death angel waits close by those who are foolish and ignore suggestions for long life, health and happiness.  It is NOT a mystery, sickness and disease is scientifically, man made and created on a molecular level mostly a consequence of making poor decisions, auto intoxication, chemicals, ingesting pesticides, shooting up or inhaling poisons etc. Everyday, we have a choice to honor our Creator with what we eat, drink, say or do or NOT! Indeed it is true, we will reap in what manner that which we have sown.  Smoking ANYthing is harming your health and a fast track to trouble in the body.  Say this, "I WANNA Live!!!!  Let's stop deliberately poisoning ourselves with known carcinogens, neurotoxins and hormone disrupters and other immune system sabotaging deliveries all for a little buzz, jolt or escape that won't last. We gotta SAVE ourselves.

What a BUZZ kill I am!  I know but there is so MUCH HOPE if you quit! Nobody can fill your shoes around here but YOU!  Do what you can to stick around ok?

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.....

Tuesday, June 16, 2015

Are We as Sick as our "Secrets"?

Have you ever been to a party and notice you are the only one left in the room because everyone has slowly disappeared into the back room or back yard or had a sudden need to walk the dog? What is a secret? It is a matter to be concealed from the eyes of those who surround us.  We have to habitually deceive key people so they don't find out! We aren't going to stop the thing because we crave and thirst for it with pleasure.  We love it so much we lie to ourselves that there is nothing wrong with it! We craftily devise ways to enjoy our addiction without getting "busted" by the law or our own loved ones. But, fairly enough, it absolutely could be a confidential matter that is personal like the relationship with a best friend or doctor or lawyer. It could be the task of the administrator of a corporation knowing the layoffs are coming.  They are sworn not to disclose what is shared in private, who is on the HIT LIST for downsizing, that would be harmful to share as public knowledge and would cause a raucous at work which would be bad for business! Funny, this is the same ethics code shared amongst our fellow substance abuse users network.

In addiction, it is our 'dirty little secret' we hide that only the people who partake in our secret are privy too. You know, like when you are at a party or an event and your buddy with the goods arrives, gives you the wink, or nod to come hither for your fix. Oh that thrill of anticipation, the comradery with other users, the deep breath and exhale that will change your state of mind in a moment and numb you out of your current reality. Ahh, the escape from real life, the people we are stuck with, their noisy chatter or their opinions that bug,  detaching from those that love us to spiral down in our minds to the great ESCAPE into that lonely state of isolation from REAL life,  or meaningful discussions and then we find something to fixate on that is far away from the thoughts, feelings, and conversations of those "sober" people. For a few hours we can dumb down and give our minds over to the enticing control of the powers of darkness.  The 'functional addicts' wait for when the evening or weekend comes so they can have another chance to escape and be of no value to the world as it is. Our secret "party for one" for  a few more waking hours, so we can be stupid, and too slow to engage in a critical thinking situation or drive.  It's kind of like having a case of Alzheimer's for a bit!  Makes for a great relationship to be around. Oh the joy of it all! Our drug of choice.......

We are known by our fruit actually, our character defects we cannot always hide from the masses. Like the scriptures say, "Your sin will find you out".  Years of lying, devising secret plans to hurry off to do our secret thing, pretending to be someone we are not, being a master manipulator, deceiver of innocent bystanders certainly opens the door to more confusion, pain, strife and deeds of darkness. God, my Higher Power is not mocked,  in fact there are 6-7 things He HATES! (see proverbs 6:16-19) He just turns His back on us in our folly because we have our head so far up our own AR$$ that we can be of no service to Him in this state, His salvation and deliverance will just pass us by when we are so deep in our denial.  Unfortunately, we are always the last to know we have a little problem until it really cuts deep, creating wounds with ruin and devastation to someone else's life besides our own.

What to do?  Seek help and reach out! In 12-Step recovery they say, "90 meetings in 90 days" and "get a sponsor" and be of service somehow is a start! It's FREE or costs $1 per meeting. Don't worry, with honesty and surrender there is HOPE! With dishonesty and lies and justifying our habit there is only sorrow and sadness awaiting. It does NOT get better from here. Missing out on the blessings from the universe is kinda SAD I think until we turn it ALL over in surrender! Will I come clean? Not unless I admit I am powerless over my tendency to do the wrong thing... it has to be wrong FIRST! (And therein, lies the rub! How many MORE years of denial will I wait I wonder?)
Step 1 We admitted we were powerless over our addictions and compulsive behavior.    That our lives had become unmanageable .
Step 2  We came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity
Step 3  We made  a decision to turn your life and will over to the care of God....
Get a sponsor to move on from here....... You are gonna need one to be accountable to who understands the tendency to lie, deceive and manipulate others so we can keep doing what we relish in secret.

We must learn to take this world as it is, experience life sober, alert and watching for the direction and guidance that comes with surrendering our faults, poor decisions and sins to our Higher Power, God who loves us and wishes for us to STOP the insanity.  We are missing OUT on the blessings that come with being alive, alert and being willing to pray for and serve our brothers and sisters who need us to share our experience, strength and hope.  We desire to serve the Chief Shepherd or we don't. OR we can keep going pell-mell down the road of self-destruct and hurt as many people along the way that we can.  Ummmm, which will you choose?  Will you seek counsel from your friends who are fellow users/addicts to down play the issue here or will YOU seek out those who are living in the day who are working the steps and finding peace, love and joy in their own hard earned sobriety? I want to LIVE and be free from the bondage of my secret behavior!

Monday, April 27, 2015

How do I let GO and LET GOD?

We just have to do it by faith in our Higher Power!  Part of our recovery is learning to LET Go and LET GOD!  When we get good at such a thing something wonderful happens..... we learn to go out and enjoy life with a grateful heart that experiences PEACE as a by product while we are waiting to see somethings change!  When was the last time YOU just made a grateful list?  Doing this will alleviate the inflammatory stress response that triggers within us HEALTH problems because we are NOT doing it "as suggested"!!

Watch my recent webinar addressing unrelenting stress and how it upsets your health including sabotaging your weight loss attempts! " Managing the TOXIC stress that causes us harm!"

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

We gotta SAVE our own health sometimes!

Say this, "I  wanna LIVE!" Yes, to wellness, good energy and HOPE for living this life as it is!  Accepting hardship as a pathway to peace.  Letting go of bitterness and resentment! 

Need a health coach for guidance and direction for getting the sparkle back in your smile and a pep in your step??  Join us for this special 6 week coaching event to regain our best energy and experience weight loss and learn a sustainable "healthier" lifestyle! 

Save the date starting April 8, 2015 this unique online event is available to you where ever you live!  Call in on a conference call or log in to the webinar on your computer!  For more info:   Clean Eating with Cary

We cannot just "talk the talk" we must also "walk the walk!"  Jesus said, Man shall NOT live by BREAD alone! (Matt 4:4.)  That means YES food and drink definitely has something to do with it but so also does faith, hope, trust and also perhaps some exercise and drinking no polluted water etc..   It is also written that, FAITH without works is DEAD. (James 2:26)  Jesus also asked the very pointed question, "Do you WANT to be WELL?"  There is HIS part to do for us what we are unable to do for ourselves and OUR part which requires taking up our bed and WALK, showing up, being honest and accepting guidance and direction toward a more healthful and meaningful life where we too will have a chance to give back if we have the strength and energy! 

Join us for a support group style say YES to "Clean Eating with Cary"

Our 12-Steps hold us to a Higher Power with responsible and purposeful deeds.  Perhaps we can't just throw around some hopeful or prayerful words but maybe we also must have some action to show for it, by the grace of GOD, to turn toward a path with health and healing promoting habits!  So you see, there is not ONE certain way that is the panacea!  But we are certain, we must DO THINGS that are suggested for our own health and wellness and recovery!

Everyone needs beauty, as well as bread, places to play and pray in, where nature may heal and give strength to the body and soul alike!    
John Muir  and he also said;
I know our bodies were made to thrive only in pure air, and the scenes in which pure air is found...