What are these ol Holiday's really all about anyway? Keep it simple: Remember to be grateful for the little things with no pricetag: Love, Life, Family, Forgiveness, Sobriety, a comfy bed, a full belly and mostly, Peace in my soul.....Selah, and ALWAYS: take your Higher Power with ya!

Ever consider yourself, "GOD"S VERY BEST LITTLE HELPER?"



There is a healthy helping others with their burdens!
But, everyone is to carry their own load! Very important!!!!
We usually get this part mixed up and help WRONG! Well, in recovery we call it ENABLING! Yes, that usually coincides with the another term "Codependent"!!! What is a hard pill to swallow is that with all our genuine efforts to help, rescue, cover, sugar-coat, control or fix someone elses character defects we actually end up "HELPING" wrong and prolonging OUR agony of someone elses addiction! That's right with our help they stay addicted even longer! The insanity that goes with it tortures us nice-self-righteous-helper types even MORE!! Hah! Are we really addicted to the addict's doings or not doings? Maybe so! So when you say you are at the meeting to be a support to your little addict think again! What we need help for is to work on our own sick issues of perhaps....enabling or codependency! To find out more go to a meeting! Our days of being someone elses activity monitor may be numbered! To let em go to crash and burn to suffer their own consequences may just be in the cards next! Keep Coming Back!!

Got some STINKIN THINKIN????

If we have experienced any kind of abuse, trauma or loss or plain bad luck we can be driven by our own stinkin thinkin into acting on our addiction or compulsions. All we need is an exuse for a pity party and to BRING it on! That is... our own methods which spiral us into circling the drain!

Best thing is to learn what stinkin thinkin is and when it is happening to stop and correct. Could be patterns of negativity statements we heard from the generations before us or our own ability to feel sorry for ourselves.

Check it out here:

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2006/the-top-10-types-of-stinkin-thinkin

http://psychcentral.com/lib/2007/what-is-catastrophizing/

Also a quick little exercise out of the "woe is me" state is to make a grateful list! Simple things to start with like waking up everyday, being able to walk and talk and spending time with the ones we love and for those who actually DO love and care about us! I am a grateful believer in Jesus Christ and stand today and everyday just
grateful to be forgiven!

Say this: Lord, I thank you that you have loved me before I could love myself. Thank you for sticking with me and protecting me from fully acting on all my stinkin thinkin! Thank you for your never ending mercy and grace and sparing me from getting all my actions may really deserve! Help me turn over now all those things in this life that have caused me pain and hurt that I cannot understand. Please, please forgive me for all the things I have done to hurt you, myself and others in my life. Help me now to fully surrender my life to you and trust you with my future. Thank you for your goodness and for doing for me what I could not do for myself! Amen.

Why is it so hard to ACKNOWLEDGE the pink elephant in the room?

The dynamics at home are different for everyone but really the toxic problem that is destroying the lives and relationships with those we love is the most difficult to confront. Why are we so afraid to step up and say, " HEY!" Why are we afraid to take the problem head on and set some boundaries to protect our peace, our happiness and our security? Isn't the potential loss from the upset offender less than what we are experiencing now? Yes, like the story of Jonah and the Whale, there was one person's direct disobedience to God that had circumstances that were harming everyone on the ship! All the innocent ones were suffering because Jonah was running from God's WILL! So guess what they did? They threw Jonah overboard to get some peace and sanity back! Guess what? NOW Jonah was God's problem (not theirs!) and God loved Jonah so much he saved his life as a whale came and swallowed him up and spit him out to safety once the misery (in the belly of the whale) did it's magic and led Jonah to repent! Then Jonah obeyed and served God and good things happened after that!

Sometimes we gotta just let go, NOT WATCH, and let GOD deal with some people before they are gonna get it. Pain, loss and sorrow will lead men to repent, not our constant rescuing, fixing, saving, covering up and certainly NOT us pretending the problem is not real! The sooner we confront the sooner a healing can happen, by the grace of GOD! Sometimes, for the one going down, they are in so much DENIAL about an issue they won't comprehend the truth until something BAD happens. That's the only way some people are gonna learn. So step away and let some miracles happen while you hide and pray! Just don't forget, TO PRAY!

We cannot do this thing alone.

Click on link below for great  Inspirational Music hits from the 70's to todays favorite  songs! You will love it and you can have your own little "party" while searching this site on "How to get Mo Betta!"

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Most of the important things of the world

have been accomplished by people

who have kept on trying

when there seemed to be no hope at all!

Dale Carnegie

Got PEACE? It is a gift when the world is at chaos, when we need direction, when we are making good choices...

I find it calming to know there is a power greater than myself and my little world that can keep the stars, the sun and the moon in place without my help! The same power that causes the sun to rise and set everyday without delay. I can safely turn over to God the things I am powerless over and cannot control. Things I am unable to fix or repair today I'll place in His hands and I'll be grateful for the things I can do to make a difference. Honestly, I wish I had more answers than I do but, it is what it is...I am not in charge! It is He that can see the grand picture of things while my view right now is a bit limited! Tonight, I will trust, rest and sleep on the wonder of these things. That's all I know....Selah! As a believer I can just: Cry out to Jesus!

Would YOU like to "FEEL" Amazing Again?

There are things that we can do to support our sobriety process and assist the clearing of our mind!

Actually, during our time of acting out we really did a number on our spirit, soul AND BODY! There are a number of deficiencies that develop with our auto-intoxication that if not restored will land us into a preventable chronic disease.  Chronic disease evolves over time, chemically produced on a molecular level! If we get sober then in time our body can re-balance and rejuvenate but it takes a little time!  Good things are ahead when you start restoring your body with nutrients and lifestyle habits that will support your body to do its job, protect YOU from the enemy free radicals, carcinogens, virus and bacteria that can take us down!  Learn how to support your immune system, improve your strength, stamina & energy levels so that you can be of service to others!

Join me!  Lets do this online DIY e-class to get back in the saddle, day light is a burnin!  Learn the BIG PICTURE while on the road to recovery!


Health Recovery 101 The 6-week online EXPERIENCE!

The12th step: is learning to be of service to someone who is lost and knows not the way, the truth, and the life! Their eyes have been blinded and they are unable to find their way clear of the things that entangle them to keep doing the wrong thing.......

Since the day we heard about you, we have not stopped praying for you and asking God (our Higher Power) to fill you with the knowledge of His will through all spiritual wisdom and understanding. And we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord and may please him in every way: bearing fruit in every good work, growing in the knowledge of God, being strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and joyfully giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of the saints in the kingdom of light. For he has rescued each of us from the dominion of darkness and brought us into the kingdom of the Son he loves, in whom we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins.
So, whatever you do or say, in thought or deed, do it as a representative of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks through him to God the Father. Col 1:9-14, 3:17

Lets have CAKE and celebrate a year living a life of sobriety! Wow, where just 1 year can take us when we make a decision to turn our life and will over to the one who can restore us to sanity. I love being sane! It's way, WAY mo betta! Sobriety = peaceful living and enjoying God's WORLD!

LET go AND move ON!!!
Life is good! Good things are ahead.
Even if we cannot see what's around the corner!

SOME OF THE BEST MEETINGS are on the holiday!!!! Great fun, good food! No reason to risk H.A.L.T. = relapse. (hungry? angry? lonely? tired? = GO TO A MEETING NOW!)

Merry Christmas! This is the day we remember God had to send a Savior for us because of the way we kept screwing up! I am grateful to be forgiven today! The pain and wreckage of my past is behind me now and I have a choice to make new traditions for the rest of my life. Well, the kind the result in peace and grace and hope and ones that can help me be reasonably happy.

Enjoy:

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Enter by the narrow path for wide is the road and broad is the way that leads to destruction, and there are many who go by that way. Because the way is narrow and the path is difficult which leads to LIFE few are they who find it.

God never gives us more than we can handle.......

Accepting Responsibility for our actions, making a list of all we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all.....in itself can be very scary. This comes with the package and decision to turn our lives and will over to the care of God. No matter what, we know that with HIS power to see us through, we are gonna be OK. Better yet we can have rest in knowing we are and have been Forgiven! Selah.

Don't Worry! Why worry if you pray and why pray if you worry?
And this we know for sure:
Everything is going to work out or everything will work out!
Because God can take ALL things and work them together for good for those who are in Christ Jesus and have surrendered to his will.
And that's all we know!

I shall be God's little hand maiden,

Acceptance with Joy!

So who did you inherit those beautiful brown eyes from? Or are they BLUE? Or that nose? Or is it THIQ?
THIQ? = Tetrahyroisoquinoline. In a jist of a story, there is a recent scientific proven fact why some in the family have inherited the addiction gene and some have NOT! Basically, either you have it or you don't! Trouble is, the only thing that activates this inherited chemical THIQ component into full blown alcoholism or your drug of choice addiction is a one time consumption of you take your pick: Alcohol!


If you have this gene it explains why some people can drink sensibly and why some CANNOT and are powerless over alcohol or their drug of choice. It is the difference between the "addict" and the "normie". For some folks, it is just not their fault they are like this. But it is their responsibilty to grasp their own sobriety. They are the ones that can never touch it. Makes so much sense really. So no matter what, as Father Martin says, we must urge our addict into what works. A 12 Step Recovery and/or treatment of SOBRIETY !! This is why the struggling loving family member of the addict can say, "I didn't cause it, I can't control it, and I can't cure it!" No matter how hard we try! What this gives the family member, is a respect for the nature of the disease. We can respond with love and firm boundaries NOT to enable. Instead with our tools in place we can lovingly contribute to the person to hit their own bottom to choose LIFE and HELP via treatment. Thank goodness for Ala-Non and its community of support for the frustrated and exasperated family members of the alcoholic! It's going to be OK! ............

Nothing going to break hearts more than seeing the one you love using and determined to be "OUT THERE"




I can't, but HE can, so I think I'll let HIM..... handle it! And that is all I know.
Thanks for letting me share!

When I need it most, I admit my life has become unmanageable. There comes a time when I must admit I am powerless over something and that it is destroying lives, mainly my own. I admit and I surrender to a HIGHER POWER who has the power to do for me what I am unable to do for myself, and that is restore my life to sanity.Here is a song that puts a focus on my idea of a change: Whatever You're Doing (Something Heavenly) - Sanctus Real

Yes, so then there is a surrender of my life and will to my Higher Power and trust that someone else is really in charge. In my case I believe the Creator of the Universe, GOD himself ought to be able to handle the likes of me. I need that, someone who can see the beginning and end all at once and who won't fall for my tricky tricks!
Sure, I must decide to make this journey on a path all by myself but what I don't know today is that there is a community of support to keep me company on my new path of sobriety for tomorrow!
How about this, take this test and see if you want to come with me on this journey of new life....
http://www.whitesidemanor.com/self_evaluation.htm
OKC ya!

In Memory: ANAHEIM, Calif. (April 9) - Los Angeles Angels pitcher Nick Adenhart and two others were killed by a suspected drunk driver Thursday,

Ever heard the term: Quit shooting yourself in the foot?

Often the bystanders who watch the insanity of addiction unfold upon those they love just wish they'd have the sense to put the gun down and "stop shooting your foot if you don't like the consequences! At least don't whine about foot pain and blame others for your own doing!"

It can be so hard to bare the watching of someone in self destruct and everyone can see the "hand writing on the wall" but the addict!

It is by the grace of God our troubles catch up to us so we can face the painful reality of consequences for our own choices. Owning up to the bad choices we have made and surrendering to God to be our sole HELP in time of trouble is our only hope for a miracle of true recovery. Hopefully after many prayers by those who love and care about us we chose surrender and reach out for recovery before we harm our self or others.

The Angel's pitcher who just lost his life and 2 others at the foolish decision of a young kid who chose to drive while under the influence. He had already lost his license to alcohol abuse and now he will feel the pain of killing 3 innocent people because he was a dumbass again. Let's choose life, God and 12 step recovery while we can before the bad thing happens.

http://www.fanhouse.com/news/mlb/nick-adenhart-killed/421624

It is already bad enough to hurt everyone else around us by our addiction but it will be so quickly forgiven and forgotten as we make the choice for life and sober living today. There is hope. God is with us to lead us out no matter how deep we are in when we finally turn to him. He has the power to help us recover when we clearly do not!

Call that number for AA or NA today! It is free! It works if you work it!

Insanity=doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result!

How many times do we do this kind of thing? Climbing into the vehicle empowered by alcohol thinking we are the best driver in the WORLD. How many DUI's or crashes will it take to learn that the poison that consumes us is a killer to us or other's? Maybe it's not alcohol you are powerless over. Is it money? How many overdraft charges or insufficient funds letters per month or year will it take to enlighten us to the fact there is a problem with the way we do business? Do we think the ATM is a slot machine? Do we stick our head in the sand writing checks we hope will be OK?

12 step recovery works if you work it. It meets the need with a miracle with whatever the venue is that has made our lives unmanageable! As we turn our lives and will over to HIM He can restore us to sanity so we can be a responsible, functioning member of society doing good to those we cross paths with! There is HOPE!